Todays Note

If you are recovering from child abuse, remember you can't choose the family you are born into. You CAN choose the family you want in your life as an adult. You can do this by starting a list of relatives you would like to have and the characteristics you would like them to have.

For instance -
Grandmother - bakes cookies, calls you once a week to just check on you, does knitting and other crafts, listens to you,  ...
Grandfather - takes you or your kids fishing, makes things in the backyard shop, fixes little things on your car, gives you advice, .....

Aunts, Uncles, Sisters, Brothers, Cousins, Mother, Father.... whoever you want and whatever kind of person you imagine them to be. It might take 15 different people to meet all the wishes you might have for a single relative on your wish list but that's OK. You are building your family. Your friend "Sue" might bake cookies and share with you. "John" might call you once a week to check on you. You get the general idea.

Check off your list when you find a person to add to your life that fits your wish list. You might be surprised how many wonderful people out there already in your world can fit the bill for a relative - even if it's a small part.

This is a GREAT reason to get out there and meet new people. You never know who's right around the corner - waiting to meet you and be your friend. Just remember to be their friend, too .